So.........I know my last post was all about enjoying every moment while the kids are young.
I think I jinxed myself because the last couple of weeks have not been very enjoyable. Today Bianca threw her second biggest tantrum ever. Around 3:00 the kids started to fight so I thought I would take them out to the backyard for a swim. Next thing I know Bianca has the hose over Wyatt's head. He's was screaming, she was laughing. I had not even put on sunscreen yet. Ugh. This was not going well. I told Bianca not to put the water on Wyatt but to put it in the pool where it belongs. She did not take my advice. I pulled her into the house and closed the patio door. I held it closed while she cried on the inside and I watched Wyatt crying on the outside. I let her out after she stopped crying and unbelievably she went right back and did it again! What in the world?
When she was 2 or 3 she would maybe try something she knew she wasn't supposed to do behind my back but this time it was full on, "Mom, look what I'm doing" behavior. The little stink pot. I turned the hose off and took the kids in. As I undressed Wyatt Bianca proceeded to put a towel over my head. I took it off and put her on the couch and gave her a swat on the butt. I don't usually spank and I have to admit here I was acting out a bit myself. I took Wyatt up to the bath while Bianca continued to scream and cry and throw things including herself onto the floor. At least THIS time we weren't out in public. Not that I care what other people think so much as it was sooo hard to get her into the car to leave!
I thought 3 was the hardest age for her, I still think it was overall. But these tantrums are definitely something new. I feel like I need a parenting book or something to help me to know the best way to handle her as she goes through them. Last time she got her princess dresses taken away for 3 days, this time it's gonna be the princesses and it won't be pretty. Another thing that worries me is that she is starting preschool in 2 weeks. I don't expect to have a perfectly well behaved child 24/7 but I do hope the schooling "helps" with these outbursts vs. leading them to be more frequent. We'll have to see.....
Good luck, dude. Unfortunately, it sounds about right for a four-year-old.
ReplyDeleteOh my goodness...your story sounds very similar to our little girls. I don't know if it's an age thing or not because Sienna still has days like that. Hopefull she'll get better: ).
ReplyDeleteBrought back memories. Miciah was our Tantrum Thrower, and she was excellent at them. I would tell Rob about them, but he never understood until he was finally home when one happened. Out of control, full-on screaming for 2 hours. ... She stopped doing them eventually, which is good, cause it seemed that no matter what we did, it didn't work. :) Hopefully Bianca's phase will pass quickly!
ReplyDeleteI'm sorry Liz- I hope it gets better:)
ReplyDeleteI feel for you- meaning, I know how you feel- somewhat, with feeling the need to get a parenting book and find the answers to help you teach your children to behave- like, "I need some help here because what I'm doing isn't working." Isaiah drives me crazy with the way he beats up his sisters sometimes, but Andy reminds me that he's a boy and he's still learning to control his anger. There's a lot of emotions in those little bodies and they don't always know what to do with them. Adults aren't so great at it sometimes either.
ReplyDeleteHey, at least you don't have them going on for 2 hours like your friend Tamra. ;) LOL No offense Tamra! :)
I know we're in for it with Scarlet. She already throws pretty good fits, throws herself on the floor, screams, throws things, puts out a big lip for a pouty face, and she's only 1. HA! LOL LOL
So yeah... that's all I have to say.
Love you!
No offense taken, Staci. I'm glad those days have passed!
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