Homebody

I don't know what is going on with her but Bianca has turned into a full blown homebody. She NEVER wants to leave the house and I mean never. Not for play dates, birthday parties, shopping, least of all church and school. I try to prepare her way ahead of time by telling her what we will be doing that day. Sometimes I even talk about it the night before. Just so there aren't any surprises.

I guess this all started with her going to school. She's always been home with me all day every day besides going to her church class or being babysat once in a blue moon, she had never been away from me for extended periods of time.

Her pre school is Wed-Fri 12:30-3:00. So Thursday I take Bianca to the calender, show her what day it is, explain that it's school, she acts excited. I continue to point out positive things that she will be doing and talk about her friends and her teacher. Lunchtime rolls around and during lunch I say ok, after this we need to get ready for school. The fight begins. She says, "I don't want to go to school today, I'm too tired, I'm sick. It's boring. I'll go tomorrow. " Those are just some of the things she says every time I tell her to get ready to go somewhere. I can usually get her in the car by telling her I will stay with her at school for a bit. Which I always do. So she finally gets in the car, nevermind the fact that she's wearing slippers and mismatched clothes, there are only so many battles I can handle a day. Once she gets in the classroom she's usually fine. She will start to play and kiss me goodbye. But this Thursday she didn't. She threw a full blown tantrum. So I took her home. I felt defeated on the way home. I didn't want to let her out of going to school but I also didn't want her to stay there and take up all the teachers time and have a terrible experience. Ugh. She fell asleep on the way home. Maybe there was something to her tantrum, she was super tired that day.

After she woke up from her nap we had a talk. I couldn't pinpoint the reason she didn't want to go to school other than she would just rather be home playing princesses in her underwear than get dressed and go out. Have I raised a total couch potato? I want my kids to be comfortable at home, but I also want them to have the confidence & energy to go out into the world and take on challenges and be good members of society.

Today she put up a fight again about going to church. I had to give her two options and the one that involved not putting on a dress and going to church also involved not getting a Christmas present that she badly wants. She decided to go, and after we got there said she loved going to Church. ?? The girl is driving me nuts!